How to use the whip and/or chibata when having sex? After the incredible success of the book and movie Fifty Shades of Gray, it was clear that most women are now curious to play with sadomasochistic accessories when having sex.
The mentioned fetish is increasingly present in the intimacy of many couples, as more and more people open up to try new practices to get out of the sexual normalcy and give a spicy taste to their intimate encounters.
If domination pleases you and your partner, then it's time to bring out your dominating instincts! And nothing better than some basic fetishistic accessories to start the practice.
But many people still have doubts about how to use these accessories, when they can be present when having sex and even what is the difference between the two.
How about trying a whip and chibata to spice up special moments? Before buying and using the toy, you will need to know a little more about each one. Check out my tips below:
WHAT'S THE CHIBATA?
The lovers of a fetish do not forego the use of the chibata in their sexual fantasies. This accessory is similar to a stick, with the differential of having leather detail on the tip. With its rigid, long and thin handle, it is generally used for small punishments. It can be found in black, brown or several fun colors.
For those who like to play Domination, the chibata is the ideal accessory to represent control and punishment, providing an impactful and dominating look to erotic games that involve it.
WHAT IS THE WHIP?
The whip is the accessory that serves to "punish" the submissive disobedient during fetishist games. It is formed by several strings joined in a handle, and varies greatly in material, softness and marks caused on the skin.
It has the psychological effect of domination, without necessarily causing intense pain. Still talking about whips, we can mention here other types such as:
FLOGGER WHIP- short whip with several strips. The threads are usually made of rubber, leather, courvin, rubber or silk, and the models vary immensely, from the hardest to the softest. It consists of a rod with a handle. It is the best seller in many sex shops.
RIDING HARNESS - it is the "standard tool" of BDSM activities. Consists of a long rod with handle and the tip with small piece made of leather. It is sure to awaken all your senses the moment you are punished by it.
CAT TAIL WHIP - this type of whip is for a serious type of BDSM. It has a leather handle with braided straps ending in a knot, with smaller straps coming out of knots.
Contrary to what it seems, most whips don't really hurt, they just make noise and create the atmosphere of domination. The same happens with the whips. The whipping stimulus increases the circulation of blood in the skin, leaving the region warmer and more sensitive to the touch. Many people who never thought of trying this game became fans after the first experience, because of the significant increase of pleasure.
HOW TO USE WHIP OR CHIBATA?
For safe fun, hitters should choose areas that are less delicate and that are preferably better protected by muscles such as thighs and buttocks. Start off lightly by testing your partner's limits. When you notice that the region is reddish, proceed with caution. As part of the joke is the "performance" of the beater and the sub, combine a safe word to be used only when someone needs to stop the play.
Important Tips
- Although it may seem like a very strong sex toy, the use of the whip and the intensity with which it is applied will depend entirely on the taste of the couple. The fetishistic practices can be of very light intensity, moderate or stronger, so there is nothing to fear. On the contrary, exploring more is always the key to pleasure.
- Once you have chosen the whip that is right for you, you will be ready to use it and enjoy its benefits. You must establish a clear code when you use any sexual toy that, employed excessively, can cause harm to others.
- The use of the whip or chibata, as well as that of any other sexual toy, should be done in a totally private and comfortable environment for the couple, in which you both feel free to let go of all the thoughts that might get in your way. It is definitely not an accessory to be used when having quick sex...
- Start sexual games as you normally do, but also incorporating the whip as an element that generates extra pleasure. With the strips of the whip in hand, caress the body of your partner with emphasis on their erogenous zones. The lighter, the better. If there is a blindfold around your eyes, your feelings should be better explored.
- Also use the handle to stimulate your partner. If your sub is a woman, you can use it for masturbation, making it so that she gets used to its texture and presence. This is works for the whip and the chibata.
- Once you have both got used to the whip, you can start using it without having to worry about the sub. Always start very gently and increase the intensity of the whipping as the temperature rises. For more spicy games, the idea is to intercalate the whipping with sensual caresses and wet kisses to soften the impacts on the skin.
- It is not necessary to use the whip simultaneously to have sex itself. They can, for example, apply a round of whipping around areas such as the chest, legs or buttocks, and then go for penetration,
- Take into account that the whipping should be alternated with caresses and penetration so that the pleasure is greater. Start with a first round of whipping until you have reached a limit of pain and a level of domination that satisfies both, then continue with a stimulation without the use of the toy. The moment the pleasure is growing, incorporate again the use of the whip.
- If you don't mind the pain when using whips, opt for short whips with several strips. When beating, make most of the strips touch the skin. More often than not, it's the expectation of being punished that gives the sub their best pleasures.
- The use of the whip in sex can also be alternated with other BDSM practices and fetishistic accessories, such as a submission collar, blindfold, gag, handcuffs, etc. These elements will help to compose the scene and increase the excitement, recreating the sexual fantasy of the dominant/submissive.
IMPORTANT DETAILS ABOUT WHIP AND THE CHIBATA
Knowing how to flog is important. The use of a whip or chibata is not for weak people! In general, the areas that can be whipped are as follows: the back of the thighs, shoulders and buttocks. If you are using the whip you can use the palm of your hands, arms, breasts and genitals (lightly, of course). It is important to stay away from the head, face, neck, spine and soft tissues such as the belly, where you have many important organs. Whips and chibatas are sexy, but it is important to use your toys safely.
Another detail is related to hygiene. If your sessions are going to be very intense, be prepared for marks in the skin. Never use an unwashed whip with more than one partner. And when cleaning it, use neutral soaps. Store them in a dry and airy place for better conservation.
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